An Ode to Emily.

The mere mention of her name reminds me to keep my elbows off the table, to put my napkin in my lap and to use the right fork.   It’s Emily Post, I speak of, of course.  And fondly, I might add.

This last week, The New York Times’ Sunday Styles section focused on today’s party do’s and don’ts.  I checked quickly to see if they had invoked Emily.  They had not.   

However, I was struck with, and pleased to see, the similarities between Emily’s etiquette suggestions/instructions and today’s.  Here are a few of The Times’ mannerly “dos” for today’s guests.

First, if you told your hosts you’ll be there, keep your word.

Be kind, gracious and thoughtful.  Take a small gift.

Do not discuss politics, religion or pornography.

Identify the “loneliest” person in the room.  Make that person feel wanted, welcome and interesting.

Don’t complain or whine.  Ask questions and listen.

Text, or better yet, pen a thank you note soon after the event.

Except for the new etiquette guidelines for “gummies” and “edibles” at parties,  Emily could have written today’s do’s and don’ts.

Some things never change. Nor should they.